Do You Get Upset/Angry at Doctors When Medications, Shots, or Treatments Make You Worse?

Do you feel like the [treatment/medications/shots] you got triggered worse conditions? Are you upset at doctors for recommending that?

Got this message from a fellow allergy sufferer.  They were referring to when I tried Xolair + Cellcept and was debilitated.

I get this question A LOT, both from friends as well as others who are sick.  When I was a child, I used to get upset, but it was mostly frustration and disappointment, not anger.

Now as an adult, I don’t get upset at doctors.  Doctors don’t know everything.  Your doctor probably never had the same disease you have! (or else they’d be too sick to be a doctor to help you!).  Each person is different.

I see Doctors as advisors as part of MY team.  The final decision to try a treatment is up to ME,  which means I need to learn as much about it as possible as well to make the final decision.  It is MY body, I know it best.  It is MY life, so it is MY responsibility.  Directing anger or blame at doctors or anyone else doesn’t help a bit other than to serve your own ego. BUT, if you have the energy to be angry or upset, you’re not sick enough.  When I’m sick, all I can think of is to get better.  There’s no energy to spend on anything else, and I don’t want to think about my sickness any more than I have to, but that is exactly what you’d be doing if you’re blaming someone.  You’re still investing in your illness, your discomfort.

Also, think of it this way.  Sure, you can blame or be angry at someone else.  But you should only care about the final result: YOU, ONLY YOU, suffer the consequences.  The doctor can be as sad and apologetic as they want to be, and be genuinely sorry, but that won’t help you actually FEEL better!  So it is up to YOU to make the decisions and learn from the successes and failures.  I only look at the REAL WORLD result, and that is if I something doesn’t work, blaming someone else won’t miraculously heal me or undo the misstep.

Plus, to get well, you have to take risks…sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t.  You won’t know what works or what doesn’t until you’ve tried it.  Doctors can say 99% of the time a treatment will work, but you could always be that 1% that for which it doesn’t work.  That’s usually me: the 1% or the 0.000001% exception, so I always expect something to go wrong or not work perfectly.  Doesn’t mean they’re wrong.  Or, like some other medications I’ve tried, sometimes it didn’t work at first because I was too sick, so I used other medications to solve part of the problem, then came back to the medication that didn’t work before, and now it works.

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