Bad Driver Entertainment Cures Road Rage. Nice!!!

I reflexively yell out “Nice!!!” when another driver cuts me off, swerves in front of me, or races on the freeway late at night. Road rage? How can you be a Debbie Downer when you realize how entertaining and impressive this stuff is?!! I’m sure we have many of the world’s top drivers here in LA.  It’s amazing what folks here pull off.

The other day a mom in a minivan shot HORIZONTALLY across 4 lanes to the carpool entrance she seemed to have passed. A minivan! 4 lanes! This ain’t no TV stunt, happened in real time!

Sure she cut me off out of nowhere and got my adrenaline pumping. That’s just a physiological reaction.  What MEANING you choose to give it is up to you. You can be pissed off, which adds stress, the worst self inflicted poison. It was more fun to channel that adrenaline into excitement, marveling at the balls it took to bust a move like that. Not only that, I was impressed by the mastery she had over her vehicle…the minivan! On the streets of LA, you’ll get amazing demonstrations of driving skills you’ll only get behind the wheel at NASCAR.

I’m not encouraging this type of stupid behavior.  I wouldn’t get in a car with a driver like that.  But that’s not the point.

But Jeffrey, What’s the Point?

Glad you asked.  Much of the world is out of our control.  But we all have our own reality: how we each experience life from our own perspective.  No two realities are the same. We have control over our realities, which, in the end, is what determines our quality of life.

The habit of yelling “Nice!!” while driving, I picked up from my dad.  Jim Rohn and Tony Robbins they teach the same concept using “modifier words” and actions.  In his seminars, Jim Rohn used to say,

“Learn how to turn frustration into fascination. You will learn more being fascinated by life than you will by being frustrated by it.”  “I’m on my way to the airport to catch a plan that leaves in 45 minutes. The traffic is not moving one inch. I am now fascinated – not frustrated, but fascinated. But I must admit, it doesn’t work every time.”

 

This isn’t just a giddy optimist thing about just “Seeing the bright side.”  That would be too cliche.

This is about putting ourselves in a mental state so we can have the energy and attitude to live the life we want instead of being we’re not slaves to our environment.  Tony Robbins wrote a blog post explaining that “our habitual emotional vocabulary shapes and controls much of our emotional experiences in life—how the labels we put upon our experience become our experience. …. you can transform the quality of your entire life simply by becoming conscious of what habitual vocabulary you use for negative emotions, and shifting them with words that break your patterns and provide you with new and better emotional choices.”

The key lesson is this:

“Maybe you use words like “I’m frustrated,” “I’m depressed,” or “I’m humiliated.” Come up with alternative words that will lower the intensity of those negative emotions. Maybe instead of “depressed” you say you are “a little bit down.” What would happen if instead of saying you feel “humiliated” you say you are “uncomfortable” with how the situation was dealt with?”

Improve your quality of life? NICE!!!


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